5 Tips to Support Separation Anxiety

Separation can be hard for children anytime, but bedtime is often the hardest. We can reduce their anxiety by ensuring we make them feel safe and secure in their sleep environment.

Our children need to know what to expect, and if they are finding separation difficult it is our role as the parent to move in close and let them know we will be there for them, setting up a sense of trust.

Always ensure connection and play before starting the settling routine to ensure needs are met, and your child feels safe, loved, connected & calm.

5 tips to support separation anxiety:

• Have a connection plan - ALWAYS bookend separation with connection. Make time for 1:1 special time before and after separation.

• Don't sneak out - Communicate to your child you are leaving and you will be back so they know what to expect. Allow the time to listen to the BIG feelings this may bring up for them.

• Play & cuddles - Allow time for play in the bedtime routine so your child has the opportunity to offload any stress, tension or frustration from their day through laughter, tears and tantrums.

• Other caregivers - Involve other caregivers in the bedtime routine to build familiarity and safety for your child. Communicate to them who will be putting them to bed so they know what to expect and ensure the caregiver also allows time and space to listen to any BIG feelings that surface.

• Be consistent - A consistency routine can help to provide your child with safety and security by knowing what to expect. If they are showing off track behaviour or resistance it may be a cry out for connection. Always ensure needs are met and feelings are heard before trying to settle off to sleep.

If you're struggling with bedtime, please don’t hesitate to reach out. You can book a FREE 15 minute consultation with me to discuss your challenges and how I can best support you.